Like everybody else I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the election, and like many people I was thrilled by the sight of a man with African heritage leading a country that once enslaved his people. Great and heady stuff. I’ve been voting since Carter/Reagan, and this was the first time I cast a presidential vote for someone I actually wanted to win. I am a little tired with the constant theorizing about why and how he won. How about this- he was just the better candidate? It could happen you know. The better guy wins. That alone would be a reason to hope. And I think he’ll be one hell of a president. If it matters. But we’ll get to that on some other day.
Having said this, election day made me profoundly sad. The State of CA decided to amend it’s constitution to specifically discriminate against a minority by voting for prop 8. The squirrels were busy that day. I’m going to spend today’s post venting my spleen over this incredibly mean spirited turn of events. It is exactly the kind of topic I get worked up about most.
First, in the interest of full disclosure, I’m a straight man of northern European heritage. I have no political party and belong to no organized religion. In short, I have no personal horse in this race. But I do have some strong opinions and observations, in no particular order.
Bigotry is always ugly. And bigots always claim that they aren’t bigots, they’re just voicing a concern or “more conservative view” of the world. Bullshit. The arguments against gay marriage are word for word, line for line, lie for lie, the exact same arguments heard against interracial marriage. It was hateful then, it is hateful now. The only correct response is to stand up, put aside your politically correct social relativism, and call a bigot a bigot. The racial and sexual disparity in this country didn’t really begin to change until good people refused to let bigots have their say without heaping shame upon them. If you voted yes on prop 8 you are a bigot. BIGOT- n. One who is strongly partial to one’s own group, religion, race, or politics and is intolerant of those who differ. End of discussion.
Next I’d like to address the question of the law. How is this amendment possibly legal in this day in age? I thought the purpose of the constitution was to protect the rights of all the people who live here. The original framers of our national constitution used it to limit the power of the government. This whole fucking country is founded on the idea that constitutions protect rights from greedy assholes who would like to take them from you. So how can you amend a constitution to specifically deny rights to some members of your society? All right, I get it. A lot of people don’t like gays. They’re uncomfortable with any group that might acknowledge that they have sex and they’re scared shitless of anything that doesn’t happen on ‘Everybody Loves Raymond’. So here’s an idea- go back into your narrow little world and ignore gay people. Hate them in your heart if you think that’s necessary but be an American and keep the government out of it.
There are a couple parts of this bigotry that really get me worked up, and no, you haven’t seen me worked up yet. Be patient, I’m getting there. Can we all stop this bullshit about ‘protecting the children’? As soon as you hear this phrase you know the person talking is full of shit. I’ve actually worked with kids. They have fairly simple needs; love, food, shelter, support, and education. Many many children don’t have these things. If you really want to ‘protect the children’ then make sure these bases are covered. Otherwise, shut the hell up. The real fear behind this obsession is that little Tommy might grow up to be smarter, wiser, or emotionally healthier than mama and papa. Lord knows you better protect them from that. Keep them stupid, repressed, and scared since that’s how the parents lives. God, I hate people.
There are 2 more points I’m going to expound upon before moving on. One is marriage in general. Maybe the lesson in this is that marriage as an institution needs to be abolished. Maybe we’re becoming too sophisticated a society to have such a narrow legal contract rule us. Polyamory, alternative life styles, serial monogamy, the high divorce rate, women’s equal rights, etc might all be signs that we need a new model. I understand that logistically there needs to be a way for the government to define who has legal rights in certain situations. Perhaps some sort of expandable domestic agreement along with child rearing contracts would work better. I haven’t thought much about this, but it is worth exploring by the more progressive minds in the legal community.
The last thing I’d like to say directly about prop 8 is how depressing it was to see large groups of African Americans campaigning for it in Oakland, The irony of electing the first black skinned president while members of his community voted to strip rights from another group was almost top thick to bear. Nietzsche once said that slaves don’t want to be free, they want to own slaves. How sad to think that in this case that might be true.
Hate and intolerance have no place in the law and no place in human society. Let’s get ready to man the barricades and lawyer up. Choose love and joy instead. Vaya con Dios and Viva la Revolucion!